Thanks for pointing me in the right direction.
Not sure if this will help you, but I have used it before and Its amazing, http://buddystream.net.
I have a similar problem…
I would like to add a view profile button, which is only showns if your friends with that person.
Is it possible to display in the same way that ‘Cancel Friendship’ and ‘Add Friend’ currently work.
I think its got something to do with the bp-friends-template.php , but I’m not sure.