BuddyPress.org

Basically there’s a few things i’m stuck on

1st is i have bbpress already on my wp site but i carnt find the config file to link the buddypress to it so have no idea what to do there

i also want to know how to edit the toolbar that comes with the buddypress plugin it doesn’t fit an i want to remove the random member thing – http://www.aboveandbelow.org

and does any one know what i can use so that members of my site can upload a video and short description to a default category i would also like them be able to post events all front side of course

any press warriors help would be appreciated