OOPS! POSTED WRONG LINK TO SITE.
TRY THIS http://eslbuddies.toni-esl.com/
Plugin Conflict!
Oh maybe, I disabled some plugins and the User Menu showed up in the nav menu.
I enabled one plugin and the User Menu disappeared.
I disabled that plugin and more, the menu did not come back.
I’M deleting the entire installation and reinstalling WordPress.
I found the hidden menu on the site with the BP links in place. Terrible placement.