hey errm well I disabled all cache plugins but the problem was still there so I ended up having to delete the user we was having the problem with and it seemed to fix it! So lost a user for now but yeah it seems ok except sometimes the site is slow to load and sometimes it randomly displays cannot connect to database errors!
yeah as was running slow before.. I changed cache plugin for a different one and now the speed issues are much better. The only issue now is that I am seeing duplicated members (1 10 times and another 8 times and it says there are 13 members when there is really only 5)