I’m having the exactly same problem. Currently trying to install buddy press on a sub domain. It’s there (as in, it shows a blog with the buddy press theme). The only place I see any buddypress control is in network admin dashboard > settings > buddy press. I don’t see any buddy press controls on my subdomain dashboard, despite changing the code in the bp-custom.php file and the wp-config.php file.
Help? I’m a real beginner at coding and have no idea where to go from here.