[jody]

Couldn’t find anything on this so I wrote something.
It seems to work for me.
I simply add this to the bp-custom.php

function update_friends_count( $user_id ) {
global $wpdb, $bp;
if ($friend_ids = BP_Friends_Friendship::search_friends( ”, $user_id )) {
foreach ($friend_ids AS $fid) {
$total_sql = “SELECT COUNT(id) FROM {$bp->friends->table_name} WHERE initiator_user_id = $fid OR friend_user_id = $fid”;
$total_friend_ids = $wpdb->get_var($total_sql);
update_usermeta($fid, ‘total_friend_count’, (int)($total_friend_ids) – 1);
}
}
do_action( ‘update_friends_count’, $user_id );
}
add_action( ‘wpmu_delete_user’, ‘update_friends_count’, 1 );
add_action( ‘delete_user’, ‘update_friends_count’, 1 );
add_action( ‘make_spam_user’, ‘update_friends_count’, 1 );