The one unifying theme out of these 76 posts is the lack of leadership so the key question for @matt and @apeatling is how does the current state of BuddyPress compare with the early days of WordPress? Would WordPress have been as big of a success if no one was working full time on it?
Right now it seems that BuddyPress has no full time resources… Open source works well at scale and yes while we all need to do more, Automattic also needs to tell us how serious they are about this effort and how much they are willing to invest to get the community at the scale it needs to be.