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@shaungreen
Sounds like you got some issues in your theme. Anyway if want to activate that widget simply click and drag it to the right in the appropriate widget section. On this note I am going to bed!

@shaungreen
Dashboard/settings/buddypress/settings
Make sure the box is checked beside show the toolbar for logged out users!
If it is checked and the toolbar is still not showing up for logged out users then you have a theme issue!

@shaungreen
Unless you disabled the WP toolbar for logged out visitors there should still be a login link in the toolbar to the top left.

@shaungreen
Do you have a sidebar login? Do you even have a sidebar or are you using a full-width template? There should also be a login in the WP toolbar unless you have deactivated it for logged out visitors.

@shaungreen
I am not sure I am following you but if you deactivated that plugin and a new user can register and activate an account and login successfully then this is not a BP or bbPress issue. It needs to be taken up on that plugins support forum if you insist on using this plugin. Otherwise you may want to look into alternatives! I have…[Read more]

@shaungreen
Deactivate it and test registration/activation then report back your findings. You may want to take this up on that plugins support forum if after deactivating it your registration/activation is successful.

@shaungreen
What plugin? Try my advise above by deactivating all plugins other than BP and bbPress. You need to use a process of elimination to determine if the plugin is causing the issue. Moderating memberships won’t do you much good if even after approving the user the activation fails.

@shaungreen
It will help if you provide the plugin that is responsible for keeping the registration in moderation because BP doesn’t hold registrations for approval by default. Whatever that plugin is, try deactivating it as well as all other plugins except BP and bbPress and test the registration/activation.