nope, not in spam folder. when I try to input the link while logged in as admin, it simply redirects to the homepage. the bp site is http://www.thecrookedpolitician.com
test user is not showing up at all and is not marked as spam.
it is setup to accept new members, and I went through the registration process on the front end and it seemed to work just fine . . . until I never received the activation email.