oh it may seem that the buddy press is not compatible at all with That Music Theme. so now I need to figure out how to reskin the buddypress default theme seeing as it would appear I am now stuck with that or faced with restarting my entire website from scratch again.
my word press theme is in there, yes. I have moved the six folders as indicated and created a new bp-default under my wp-content/themes and transfered the folders into there. In step two I do not see my chosen theme but still the buddy press default theme. Thus I am unable to align and tweak.