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I have Buddypress 1.7.1 installed, Genesis 1.9.2 with the News child theme, I also have the Genesis connect plugin version 1.2.1.
I have my site set up so that anonymous visitors see a regular blog and som e tatic pages, but logged in users can access the buddypress features, (using S2member for this).

I would like to be able to change the way the navigation links look in my theme specifically for BP. Right now they look terrible, just as links. Here is a picture of what I currently have, and then of what I am more or less looking for.

My Current look

Something better

My question is, how do I do this? I am not a programmer, and I don’t expect anyone to teach me to program! Maybe someone could point me in the direction of the pertinent info and I can fumble my way through it?

Thanks