Not sure if it still works as intended as it is about two years old but you might want to have a look at this plugin. https://wordpress.org/extend/plugins/buddypress-usernames-only/
Hi, thanks for the reply.
I had actually already tried that before posting, and it says it hasn’t been tested with my version. All it did was break my registration system.
As a workaround, I found a plugin that let me change the registration username/password email, and inserted instructions on how to change their nickname.
It would still be nice if people automatically had their username for their nickname like they expected, lol.
Posted this here also; https://buddypress.org/community/groups/how-to-and-troubleshooting/forum/topic/display-name-doesn%C2%B4t-fit-between-bp-and-wp-fields/
This Plugin may help, tested on a single site, hasn’t been tested on a multi-site install. I was having the same issue, so I had this developed. Let me know if it works for you.
FYI: I submitted it to WP for inclusion in their repository, should be there soon.
http://scenicjobs.com/wordpress-plugins