If you are talking about your installation somewhere ,you can easily turn it off (if you are a admin) from the “Buddypress” submenu under the “Site Admin” menu.there is an option “Allow non-friends to post on profile wires:”. you can select “no” for that.
But if you are talking about this buddypress.org site, Andy may think that this feature can be very useful for developers (like us) for contacting each other without having to wait for the invitation accept.
and Don’t forget to turn those Lights OFF.(only if this answers your Question)
lol. This turning off the lights when you leave the room campaign is catching on. We should give modemlooper a chance to do it himself. Practice makes perfect when it comes to habits.
The answer is no.
Lights back on
I see that you cant post to a wire via this option but you still can message people who are not friends. I can go to anyone’s profile and click the send message button. Is there a way to stop non friends from messaging you?
I can see this being used to spam members.
you have to put thoses lines in your wp-content/member-themes/buddypress-member/profile/profile.php to make it work like you want
you add this test :
<? global $bp;
if ( ‘is_friend’ == BP_Friends_Friendship::check_is_friend( $bp->loggedin_user->id, $bp->displayed_user->id ) ) {
?>
before thoses line
<?php if ( function_exists(‘bp_send_message_button’) ) : ?>
<?php bp_send_message_button() ?>
<?php endif; ?>
end then close the test
<? } ?>
Perfect! turning out light
you could write a function to add at the action that sends messages, i’ll look at the code and write smtingh for you, i don’t like hacking code, just plug it 
a function is better… you’re rigth
