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@kvschwartz name of file should be bp-custom.php and not bp-customs.php
https://codex.buddypress.org/plugin-development/bp-custom-php/

@kvschwartz,

what exactly are you trying to do, just the notification link or more? any link to your test site may be i can be of help.

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@kvschwartz
You would not see the button on your own members directory listing. Have you tried creating a test user and logging in to see if the button is there? I am for hire if you need help and you can contact me here if you have a budget to work with.

@kvschwartz
bp-custom.php should reside in http://www.your-site/wp-content/plugins or if your on localhost it would be http://localhost/your-site/wp-content/plugins. It is not in a folder like other plugins would be. It is just a php file named bp-custom.php that occupies the same directory as a plugin. Please…[Read more]

@kvschwartz
Have you tried:

BuddyPress Notifications Widget

Or:
https://wordpress.org/plugins/buddymenu-buddylinks/
?

@kvschwartz

For option a) , put this:

define( 'BP_DEFAULT_COMPONENT', 'profile' );

in your bp-custom.php file.

@kvschwartz
Don’t you think this would throw people off? You add friends by searching the members directory. How else would one determine if they want to be friends with this other person?
Answer to b) I have a plugin that will add data to the members directory.

I thought about offering it free but after further consideration I decided to offer…[Read more]

@kvschwartz
On the members directory you should see a button to the right of that member that says “Remove Friend!” If you are not friends already it would read “Add Friend.”

@kvschwartz
I have not tested all of the capabilities of this plugin. I would pose this question to the author of this plugin here:
https://wordpress.org/support/plugin/bp-direct-menus
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@kvschwartz
This is a new plugin and it works good. No foot kissing needed!
https://wordpress.org/plugins/bp-direct-menus/