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@kizmark In your customization, add back do_action( 'bp_member_header_actions' ); in
buddypress/members/single/member-header.php. Also I don’t see buddypress.js in source view of your theme and it’s needed to make the button actions work.

@kizmark can’t log in with the info you provided above. What theme are you using? What plugins are activated in your site?

@kizmark if you change to Twenty Twelve, do the buttons show up?

@kizmark

I’m still scratching my head with this one. It must be my install playing games. In the end I got it working with

Anyway I thought why not just build the link and throw it directly in the friends template?