Yes it is confusing for users that you have to make a post to one place and to change your avatar to another.
Well what we are doing now, is putting all buddypress ‘admin’ settings in the wp-admin and reorganized them…
right now we have:
Posts
Comments
Messages
Settings
Appearance
(with submenus off course)
Everything else is stripped out. I can imagine 100 of structuring this, but for this particular install, this is what we needed.
We have very limited time.
So what i did is used an existing “admin theme plugin” and changed it so the wp-admin matches the look and feel of our front end. (think eg. facebook ‘front and back’, or lastfm etc ).
The most difficult part is getting the bp functionality such as messages completely work back end. Which atm we haven’t managed yet.