Re: Upgrade confusion.
Which readme.txt file are you referring to?
The one that comes with BuddyPress states this in the “Installation” section:
--- Plugins: ---
1. Upload everything into the "/wp-content/plugins/buddypress/" directory of
your installation.
2. Activate BuddyPress in the "Plugins" admin panel using the "Activate Site Wide"
or "Activate" link (both work).