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@stwc Agreed – I’m a developer – I can (mostly) make BP do what I want it to. I’m not a community builder because there is really no such thing. As a site owner, I can only offer up tools that I think my site needs to help it become a community. Once a community forms, the community will be what drives new site features as they will use the tools provided in the manner they see fit.

As @LPH2005 (basically) mentioned, you can’t force people to use a site they have no interest in. Yes, some might discard that particular example because it’s “kids” but think about it – kids are the ones that are going to be most able to pickup a new concept. If they can’t figure BP out and it doesn’t interest them then there’s a huge problem with BP.