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ok guys. figured it out. this killed me today. godamighty.

needed somebody to send me link to this resource:

https://buddypress.org/community/groups/how-to-and-troubleshooting/forum/topic/email-notification-not-working/?topic_page=2&num=15

anyway, there’s some kind of mail issue for ppl hosted at bluehost. you have to get the Mail From plugin:

http://code.andrewhamilton.net/wordpress/plugins/mail-from/

and then everything works fine.

just heads up for ppl that have this issue in the future.