BuddyPress.org

now switching to buddypress for a huge community site

Having stated experience with Jom, I assume that you have as much or more experience with BP as ‘Huge Community Site’ worries me slightly, not trying to put you off BP in the slightest, but generally one would tackle large projects only when 100% confident developing on a particular platform, and BP does require a fair bit of work to get what one wants.