Re: Bug (?): private message to two members
They would get loaded after the WPMU ones, so if there’s no check for them pre-existing, then they obviously overwrite them.
I currently don’t have a cookie_domain setup in wp-config.php either and everything works fine. It should get assigned by WPMU in wp-settings.php if it isn’t in the config.
In the wp-config.php file, verify:
$base = '/';
define('DOMAIN_CURRENT_SITE', 'domain.com' );
define('PATH_CURRENT_SITE', '/' );
define('SITE_ID_CURRENT_SITE', 1);
define('BLOGID_CURRENT_SITE', '1' );
…where domain.com is obviously your domain. If you are using any settings unlike what I posted above, paste them here please.