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@JamieMM

You seem to be having difficulty with the basics. May I suggest switching to an easier theme to customize?

I designed BuddyLite with newbies in mind (like me!) You can get a similar look and feel as your current theme, while taking full advantage of WP3 custom menus, and a bunch of basic customization options through a simple admin panel.

You can download it here: http://buddylite.com/buddylite-basic/