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hey guys sorry im so late on responding back, i started to lose hope on getting feedback since everywhere else i went for help (suffusion support forum never respond to any of my help post, wordpress.org at least someone was nice enough to direct me here) was pretty much pointless. but anyway i decided to dump the suffusion theme because i figured there wasnt any point in using a theme that didnt have much of dependable support forum and bought the platform pro theme and so far not only am i impressed but i realize u get what you pay for (free has its limits).
i looked into what @youlichika said and http://site/groups/create/ takes you directly to the create page that i thought no longer existed. so i went thru my cpanel file manager and edited bp-groups.php and at line 155 i added this:

bp_core_new_subnav_item( array( ‘name’ => __( ‘Create’, ‘buddypress’ ), ‘slug’ => ‘create’, ‘parent_url’ => $groups_link, ‘parent_slug’ => $bp->groups->slug, ‘screen_function’ => ‘groups_screen_group_create’, ‘position’ => 50, ‘user_has_access’ => ‘groups-create’ ) );

and i got the create a group tab added next to invites, its not perfect but it gets the job done. im going to do the same thing for events and let you guys know how it turns out. thanks again everybody for replying to my post i found exactly what i was looking for and im more than happy to share what ive learnd hoping to help the next person being ignored from other forums lol