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@modemlooper removed buddypress extended settings from the repo and made one premium plugin called BuddySuite that has more features than the plugin that was in the repo. I think this also covers adding the profile menu to the main nav as well You can get it here:
http://shop.taptappress.com/downloads/category/plugin/
For the private community you can get that here:
https://github.com/bphelp/private_community_for_bp
Cheers!