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Thanks for brining back the original discussion, I totally forgot about it I absolutely agree that it should be possible to publish a message in someone his activity stream, and Facebook nails this aspect.

for example:

When I sent my friend Arx a message on his stream it shows up on my stream like this:

“You said to Arx: How are you doing?”

And it shows on Arx his stream:

“Bowe said to you: How are you doing?”

When others visit my profile they see my activity and also the public message I sent to Arx. But this message/action does not get added to the sitewide activity stream of all my friends and Arx his friends..

This makes it somewhat a semi-public message (it’s on both your activity streams, but not added to the site wide stream or friends stream) but this allows people to have public conversations profile to profile in a way which is not confusing.

I think this is the best way to handle the situation, and the most easy to pick up on.