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It’s working! ok here is what you do if anyone else needs help. Follow the instructions here
http://www.lavluda.com/2007/07/15/how-to-enable-mod_rewrite-in-apache22-debian/
make sure to edit the default in the /etc/apache2/default (I think I did default-ssl also) the instructions are wrong and point to /000-default
restart apache2 using “sudo service apache2 restart” not the outdated one in the instructions