BuddyPress.org

also:

I only installed the bp plugin on one of my subdomains…. yet the bar is showing up on all subdomains across the wpmu install…..

How do I get it to stop doing this?

I do NOT want my other subdomains to have bp enabled, enless I enable the plugin within their admin.

Even though I placed buddpress into the plugins dir and not the mu-plugins directory, when I go to the plugin admin, it says bp is enabled systemwide….. That is NOT what I did.. how do I stop that?

I only have a few subdomain blogs that would even want bp, so having it auto activate as a plugin systemwide is not going to work.