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Everything has its own learning curve. There’s currently a couple of issues on WordPress 3.0 installs, but we’re working on those. Everything else is and should work fine, though that’s not to say improvements can be made in future releases.

I think you thought BuddyPress+WordPress would do things that it doesn’t, and that’s unfair to blame BuddyPress for not matching your expectations.