BuddyPress.org

I hesitated for exactly that reason, for several months, to go searching and looking for conflicting stories. Found none. They seem to have a similarly liberal approach to processor cycles, which would fit, and only deal with problems by discussion on a case by case basis. So far enormously impressed. In fact the only thing I think they could offer that would make them pretty well unbeatable would be their own payment processing system that could get us out of the stranglehold of paypal and the big company processes.

As to cheapness, the full reseller package is certainly modestly priced, but offers all the freedoms I have been locked out of by my previous host. I have yet to crack the integration of the hosting interface with my main site so that my company brands the experience from start to finish though.. too busy with other sites.