Holy Cow!!!
This fixed it…
https://wordpress.org/support/topic/sidebars-in-widget-admin-area-not-expanding-or-collapsing
“I can’t able to fully understand your problem but I have some solution may be useful to you. Your Problem is may be of WP_MEMORY_LIMIT.
in wordpress root folder open wp-includes/default-constants.php
on line define(‘WP_MEMORY_LIMIT’, ’32M’);
change it to 64M or more.”
Clearing cache makes no difference and there are no errors. Could be a WordPress issue I guess. Just wondered whether anyone had encountered anything like this before.
Thanks anyway, Paul.
Yes @BooneGorges has it correct.
I forgot to add that i removed the WordPress that i had with Buddypress 1.5 and manually started again with a fresh install. i went over to WordPress.org and download the Buddypress version 1.2.10
Previously everything buddypress 1.2.9 was like before. no “add a reply” was visible.
But before i added Buddypress 1.2.10 i just checked with the default WordPress theme twenty eleven.
I selected sample page as my homepage and sure enough “add a reply” was visible. So that’s where i get the feeling that the buddypress default theme is acting as a regular wordpress theme.
lol i am sorry for my newb question and not making it clear.
Step by step of what i did .
1.Originally i downloaded WordPress manually uploaded. Set up everything manually.
2. I manually uploaded Buddypress 1.2.9 set up everything. I then went to dashboard/settings/reading
Front page displays- I selected a static page (select below) I selected for the Front page > sample page.
Then i went over to dashboard/pages/all post, selected “sample page” renamed it “main” .
3.Then i went to home page. The “sample page” which is what i selected as my homepage would show up As the home page. So whatever is on the sample page i would remove and re-edit. On the bottom of the page would just show “edit this entry”.
4.Today i went to my site i saw that i had updates. So i updated to the latest buddypress1.5 .
that’s when everything changed. My home page had “add a reply” as if it were a regular WordPress blog. Or on a regular WordPress page you’d have “add a reply” on the bottom of the page.
So on the sample page which is what i set up as my home page. Would look just like that on a regular WordPress page. With no Buddypress installed.
If you’d like i could make screenshots.
Maybe. If it’s a case for a manually added page, you’d have to turn them off, so that makes a bit of sense. The pages the Upgrader adds have comments disabled automatically.
Maybe @echoman means that comments are enabled on his pages? Not sure why this would differ between BP 1.2.10 and BP 1.5.
Thanks so much Paul, line found finally, and did the job so well, and I posted a ticket too:
https://buddypress.trac.wordpress.org/ticket/3597
I would love to use Karmatosed’s solution but as I wrote above, don’t know to accomplish that exactly.
I can’t even understand what exactly you’ve done, or are trying to do. Helping you will come in due course 
For the second time: In your WordPress settings, what have you set your “show as front page” to? If it is a custom Page, in BuddyPress’ Component screen, what component have you mapped it to?
Hoping for a reply i downgraded to 1.2.10 and th sample page looks like before edit this entry, and there is no “add a reply” like on buddypress 1.5 default theme. So i am assuming default buddypress 1.5 theme is acting as a wordpress theme. Please please please tell me what i can do or is there going to be a fix?
@linusf
For now we have upgraded the plugin to work correctly with WordPress 3.2.1 / BuddyPress 1.2.9
We gonna update soon our platform to bp 1.5 so should’t be a problem to upgrade
I’m trying to contact the author throughout his forum but still hasn’t got any answer.
We gonna wait a bit and clear up the code and the documentation, and in case we gonna apply for the plugin group
I’m posting here the url to the github repo just for easy consultation:
https://github.com/piermariacosina/bp-profile-privacy
@ islandcastaway i tried but was unsuccessful. It seem like all the buddypress themes do the same. with the sample page. as before on the previous buddypress 1.2 i would set the sample page as static frontpage and would only see edit this entry.
@Paul Gibbs Yes, when i make the sample page as the static front page it would show add a reply.
From what I’ve read from the link islandcastaway posted it’s seems that the pages “sample page” is acting as a wordpress theme instead of a buddypress theme page.
In your WordPress settings, what have you set your “show as front page” to?
Hello,
You will need to edit the “home page” and turn off comments for that page http://www.blog.web6.org/disable-comments-wordpress-3-1-tutorial/
or you will need to make a custom page in your themes template folder to not include the comments section.
I’ve not noticed any delay in any of my BuddyPress sites. Perhaps it’s just a coincidence with the particular ones you’ve been visiting?
As for Custom Community – you’ll need to do a few things. Make sure you’ve added widgets to the sidebar in the WordPress Dashboard and also make sure the sidebar is being called properly in the theme template files – such as sidebar.php, homepage.php (or frontpage.php or something similar). Also make sure the the CSS files in the theme are positioning the sidebar to the left of the content. Do you have link you can share?
*update
I ended up reinstalling wordpress and de/reactivating bp and it seems to have done the trick.
Hi Paul
I added a test page in wordpress : it appearde automatically in the appearance -> menu as I checked the “add automatically” but still, nothing happens.
I use the BP fakename 1.2 theme ? I gonna try the default one,see if it works. 
Thanks
Hi John, thanks for your reply.
In wordpress, a page with “parent 0” appears automatically on the main menu, but here nothing happens ?
BuddyPress 1.5 uses the WordPress Navigation menus, which allow you to customize your tabs.
> If I manually install 1.5 RC1, will I be notified and be able to update normally/successfully via the dashboard when 1.5 is released?
Yes.
> Since 1.2.11 is in the works, I’m assuming 1.5 isn’t going to be released anytime soon.
Incorrect assumption There may well be a 1.2.11 for security reasons, as not everyone will want to (or be able to) upgrade to BP 1.5 right away.
> A bit confused why BP RC isn’t installable via the dashboard while bbpress RC is.
Usually betas and RCs are not released through the auto-update channels. bbPress 2.0 is a special case, because it’s the first version that is a WordPress plugin. So there’s no risk of someone using a stable version switching to a non-stable version.
Okay well I did just create two usernames for buddypress and tried it on the main site and sure enough it took one offline when I was not. Looks like either this is the way they wanted to function (can’t see why) or some sort of caching issue like you stated above. I created a ticket here so maybe we can get more of an official word on the matter. https://buddypress.trac.wordpress.org/ticket/3590
This isn’t a BP issue. Sidebars are added and customized just like WordPress. There is a plugin in WordPress.org plugin repo that allows different sidebars on different pages.
https://buddypress.org/community/groups/buddypress-sidebar/
